Welcome to my blog on adoption!  Please feel free to join in the discussion.  At the end of each blog you can add your own thoughts.  I welcome your comments on any one of my postings.  Happy reading!                  Lori

Philomena

Posted by Lori Rosove on Monday, February 3, 2014
Kudos for the production of the new film Philomena. Needless to say, with Judi Dench and Steve Coogan in lead roles, the film is tremendous. But my attention went beyond the spectacular performances and more so to the poignant and accurate depiction of a birth mother's deep grief regarding the 'loss' of her child.

Anyone who wants to see just a great film should see Philomena. Anyone who is interested in knowing just a bit more about the emotional aspects of adoption should see Philomena. Any...
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Baby, Baby, Baby

Posted by LoriRosove on Friday, January 10, 2014 In : Adoption 

I thought I would write this during the holidays, but...you know.

Now that I’m back to work, I find myself re-immersed in the passionate world of adoption and getting to tasks that I left behind. Thus, this little blurb. Over the last few weeks, I have been haunted by a recurring theme: All children need a family. Of course, in theory, everyone knows that. But, in reality, what I most commonly hear is "We want to adopt a child under 2." It's not that I don't understand that desire. Why wou...


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Raising our children: Are we confused?

Posted by Lori Rosove on Friday, October 18, 2013 In : Adoption 
In Heather's Forbe's most recent e-newsletter (October 11, 2013), she reminds us that "It is not up to us to make our children better [because] the reality is that we cannot change or fix another person." Instead, she tells us what we can do. "We can surround them with support; we can love them unconditionally, free of judgment or control; we can set appropriate boundaries, and we can align with their pain." She tells us that if we do that, we are doing everything we can for our children and ...
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Loss: The Paradoxical Truth in Adoption

Posted by Lori Rosove on Sunday, September 22, 2013 In : Adoption 
"The saddest day of my life was the happiest day of your life", wrote Ottawa social worker, Carol Shipley, in her book, Love, Loss, and Longing: Stories of Adoption, quoting her birth mother upon meeting Carol's adoptive mother. 

No doubt, adoption brings a complexity to one's psyche that otherwise may not exist if a different choice was made. But who would argue with the plan to have a family raise a child with all the necessary aspects of life - stability, consistency, structure, and love - ...
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Adoption Then and Now: How times have changed since writing Rosie's Family.

Posted by Lori Rosove on Tuesday, June 4, 2013 In : Adoption 

As I was packing an order of Rosie’s Family, An Adoption Story, this morning, I paused to reflect on how different my adoption practice was back in 2001 when I wrote this book.  Back then, a significant proportion, if not the majority, of people that I prepared for adoption, successfully adopted internationally.  While China, with its one child policy and open doors to international adoption, was at the forefront of the destinations that my clients chose, other Asian countries, such as Viet...


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